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A Nugget of Wisdom From Napoleon Hill’s Book, Think and Grow Rich

September 3rd, 2010 by Mary Thayer

One of my all time favorite books is Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich. It is an amazing book and if you have not read it I suggest you get down to your local bookstore or get on Amazon.com and order. Read it and then read it again. It is an amazing reference book if you are seeking personal success in your life. I find for myself the more I reference it the more success I achieve in all areas of my life.

The verse I want to share with you is in chapter 2 on Faith in a discussion on autosuggestion. Rather than trying to explain it I will just write it out in full and then let you pull from it what you will. (To get the full effect pull out you own copy of Think and Grow Rich, dust it off and take a look at it!) And ladies it is an old book just replace man with woman where appropriate:-)

If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you like to win, but think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will~
It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

“Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!”

These are truly words to live by and to teach our children. These concepts can make the difference in our own lives but our children need to learn them for success as well. Recently I was able to use this while teaching my 4 year old daughter a very valuable life lesson.

About a month ago I took the training wheels off my daughter Ella’s bike. She learned very quickly to ride as long as someone helped her get started.

The next day Ella and her older sister Donna were out very early practicing Ella’s new found skill. Ella was convinced she needed Donna’s help to get started pedaling. I recognized that if Donna continued to help her she would never learn how to get started on her own. I explained this to Donna and Ella and told Donna she could not help Ella start pedaling anymore.

Ella became very upset and started to say things like, “I can’t” and “I will never be able to do it.” I was unable to get her calmed down and I could see that what she thought was diminishing any of her ability to even ride with help getting started. So I put the bike away and told her when she could say, “I can” she could have it back.

This was a very difficult task for a 4 year old child. But she really wanted to practice so she reluctantly calmed herself down. I then coached her to say out loud, “I can do it.”

It took a few times for her to say “I can do it” before she actually believed what she was saying but when she did the results were amazing. Within five minutes she had conquered starting herself pedaling on her bike. When I could see that she was struggling some I could see her saying to herself, “I can do it” over and over. It was amazing to see what Napoleon Hill described in auto-suggestion in action in a four year-old.

These concepts are just as important to teach our children as they are for us to practice in our own lives. As most of us parents know that our children learn best by example. If they see us practice this they will pick it up in their life as well.

So if you are looking for a positive change in your life, start by thinking you can do it and then watch as the amazing story of your life unfolds! For more wisdom to live by study the book “Think and Grow Rich” as it is full of valuable nuggets to apply in your life to help you achieve the success you desire.

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3 Tips to Overcome Challenges In Your Home Based Business

August 26th, 2010 by Mary Thayer

Do not get stuck in a hole!

My journey in free enterprise has not been without it’s ups and downs. The ups are amazing experiences and I often get that “Someone please pinch me” feeling because it can feel completely surreal. On the opposite side, the “downs” have felt like being in a dark hole with no way out.

The bad news is that the majority of people do not hang on long enough to find the way out of the hole. They may take a swing at something that could potentially change their lives and quit after the first or second miss. The failure rate in home business is so high because of this simple fact. People give up to easily. They quit the instant it gets hard. You can take a look at college graduation statistics and see the trend continue. When the going gets tough the absolute easiest thing to do is just quit and go back to the “comfort zone” of their life. The funny thing is for most people their “comfort zone” is completely uncomfortable!

The good news is there always is a way out of a low. The other good news is that there are steps you can take on your road to make the down times feel less down. It is not a matter of if you will fall, it is more accurately, when you will fall. Accept that challenges are part of life and become determined to overcome them.

Here are 3 easy ways you can use to keep your head up or have it be the hand up for you when you fall.

1. Visualize positive things ALL the time.

You can turn a perfectly awful day into a fabulous day by focusing on the good things rather than the bad ones. This practice will help you in all areas of your life.

2. Surround yourself with positive people who have already achieved what you want to.

They will be your biggest asset to overcoming challenges in your life. If you do not know anyone successful in your life pick up a book or two. Books like Think and Grow Rich, The Magic of Thinking Big, How to Win Friends and Influence People, What to say When You Talk to Yourself, The Slight Edge, are all great examples of books that will help you excel in your business and your life. Borrow these authors as your positive influence and watch how you start to grow personally and in your business!

3. Live for today in the now. Do not live in the rear view mirror!

Do not dwell on your past mistakes or failures but rather look to the solutions that will mold your future.

Remember if success was easy everyone would be successful. Embrace challenges as learning experiences and move on!

Mary Thayer
Be Relentless! ~ Wayne Allen Root

What is your D.M.O. (Daily Method of Operation)?

June 14th, 2010 by Mary Thayer

My little princesses!

A Candid View From a Work at Home Mom

When you are running a home based business sometimes it is easy to get distracted. There are so many triggers that can take a perfectly good day and turn it into a scattered waste of a day.

If I told you I had the perfect daily method of operation aka..D.M.O. I would be a liar. I have a D.M.O. but it is continually getting refined and developed.

It certainly is a process to get one developed that is productive and profitable at the same time. The discipline to keep it up becomes easier when it reaches both of these points. The issue with that is it takes discipline to get to the productive and profitable point in your business first! It truly is a circular process.

Developing your D.M.O. should be your main focus. Not just any D.M.O but one that is achievable, productive, and profitable at the same time. I work at home around three small children (6,4, and 1) and I have found that my D.M.O. integrates everything I do around the house- like laundry and meal preparation- to business activities like making calls during nap time, advertising, content creation, social media and of course plenty of interruptions like tickle time:-).

If you have children you know that interruption free time is limited. Notice I say limited not non- existent. Honestly if you are seriously going to run a successful home business you need to have some scheduled uninterrupted time that you can count on.

As a serious business owner I realized early on that I needed to have more time to myself (without the interruptions of my children). A solution that works for us is to schedule a day and a half that my children go to Grandma’s house. They love going, my mom loves to spend time with them, and we pay her so she has a little something for her work as well. Invest in your business by getting some valuable focused time away from your kids during the day as well. If your main reason for working at home was to avoid daycare make sure you and your spouse work out something so you have some sort of set time to work by yourself. Your business will thank you!

During my process of developing my D.M.O. I discovered I am more productive when I have a plan and task list for each day. This plan is specific to what I will do at what time of the day.

For example I started to get up 1 hour earlier in the morning. In this 1 hour I am able to get most of my daily business tasks done. Leaving the rest of my day to focus on bigger projects. Having this one hour to myself has increased my productivity exponentially. To be honest the productivity that I achieve in this one hour is way more valuable to me than that hour of sleep was!

Next I started to schedule calls during nap time. So again any mothers or fathers reading this know that even nap time can be volatile at best. To my surprise by simply scheduling this activity to this specific time I was able to successfully complete several calls while the house was quiet! If you have older children that do not take naps you can schedule quiet reading time. If they are old enough to read they are old enough to understand that they cannot interrupt you during that specific time.

When you are developing your D.M.O. expect to:
Alter it frequently in the beginning, it takes awhile to get the BEST possible method down.
Make a list the night before of what you will accomplish the next day.
Make a commitment to your scheduled tasks. Yes you will have derailing moments but do whatever it takes to get back on track!
Start with small tasks and build it up as you become more proficient in each skill you are adding daily.
Do not ever, ever, ever, ever give up!

The clear benefits of developing a D.M.O. include:
More productivity in the hours spent working on your business.
Your work day becomes more predictable.
A schedule will help you stay on task.
Your business will grow consistently as a result of consistent daily activities.
Your productive and profitable D.M.O. is a great blueprint to hand off to your new teammates to get off to a quick start!

Developing a D.M.O. had helped my home base business grow much easier and quicker. Managing yourself so that you make the most effective use of your time is the key.

Please share ideas and tips on how your daily method of operation has helped you grow your business below in the comments.

If you want to find out more about what I do and how you can have access to the same high quality training Click Here.

The New Economy’s Simple Formula For Financial Success

May 24th, 2010 by Mary Thayer

It was not long ago that the formula for success was go to school and get a good job with great benefits. Once you completed those steps you could basically put your life on auto-pilot and be set.

Today those rules no longer apply. Having a good job is about as secure as having a good used car. It might be reliable for the first couple of years but then things start to break down. Like the job market is breaking down with downsizing, layoffs, and many company’s closing their doors completely or picking up shop to go to another country.

This seems like bad news but it is better defined as new rules. The new rules include an entirely different formula than the go to school and get a good job formula.

So what is the Formula for success in today’s economy?

It is a very simple formula but I will warn you that it does not involve putting your life on auto-pilot…………

The New Economy’s Formula is:

New Skills= More Value= Increased Income Potential

In today’s “new economy” as more and more people are finding themselves without a job, more are looking to start a business. Other people looking are just tired of not having any control of their lives in an uncertain job market. Most that are looking want to start a business they can run from the comfort of their own home utilizing the internet.

To start any new business it is critical to learn new skills. Simply committing to this will invariably increase your value to the marketplace. As you increase your value and provide it to the marketplace your increased income potential grows.

But let’s be real here, the thought of learning new skills can be daunting. It can be downright scary for people who have not been actively learning for years or in some cases decades. The process of gaining new skills is full of ups and downs as well. It is critical to celebrate every small victory as you learn and apply! This will provide you with the staying power to keep you excited and motivated to keep plowing ahead.

Another little secret about gaining new skills is that they never produce results as fast as you think they should. When you apply each new technique it always takes longer to work than you think it should. Accept that fact and run with it! Persistence and tweaking are key. Hold on to these two skills and you will achieve great things!

As you are on your journey of gaining new skills do not forget the more value part of the equation. Pass this value into the world and you will attract the people you desire to you and your business. Leverage your new value and position yourself as a leader. Most people are looking for a leader to help them on their way. Be that person and you will experience great success in the new economy!

Last note for you to remember in this equation is that everyone has their own time-line. Do not compare yourself to anyone. If you must compare yourself to something compare your progress and growth from one week to another. If you embrace this new economy formula you will be shocked at how many doors will open for you!

To your continued success!

Mary Thayer

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My “Why”

May 18th, 2010 by Mary Thayer

It is so important to know your “why”. If your why is not big enough you will have a hard time staying the course. Define your why and get in down on paper or you can get it on video like I did…..

Your “why” can be anything but it has to involve more than just making money. It must reach deep in your heart and pull your little heart strings. Only then will you overcome each obstacle on your path to success!

My “Why” for what??? Find out what I do Here.

Hanging Out In Las Vegas Is Part of The Job…..

May 7th, 2010 by marythayer

Mark Hoverson and Mary Thayer Hiking in Red Rock Canyon near Las Vegas

Well I have just returned from another awesome marketing event in Las Vegas. This event was hosted by Mark Hoverson for Leadership Branding in direct response. It was a training event filled with people from every imaginable background, company, level and income bracket. (There was even a billionaire present for the training.)

As you can see the event was not all board room training. The first day was a sunshine filled, beautiful desert day hiking in the Red Rock Canyon. You can see I snagged a quick photo with Mark. (look at the incredible views in the background!) He is an incredible trainer and had a great idea to start the event with a hike. It was a great atmosphere to get out and meet like minded people and network.

The actual conference room event was rich with applicable training and tons of networking. It was amazing to network with others leaders making it happen. It really helps you take your game plan to the next level!

In fact it was in Las Vegas that I met the guys who are helping me with this blog. These associations improve you as a person and as a result your business grows! So I encourage you to get to an event. Get out into the world and network with like minded people! It is worth every penny and if you do not go it might cost you plenty of unrealized profits!

Mary Thayer

P.S. Keep watching this blog as I will be adding tons more content and improving it daily!

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Life, Death, Travel, and Business……

April 23rd, 2010 by marythayer

Wheweee………. That is all I can say about the past month of my life. A month ago I was preparing for a wealth and marketing conference in Boca Raton, Florida. I attended this event and was blown away at the incredible value of the information presented.

It was an incredible week of networking with like-minded people, learning from successful people, and enjoying staying at a beautiful resort.

This is a truly global picture!

This photo has people from all over the world in it. From left to right there is Spain, UK, Japan, Jamaica, USA, and Canada. All of us were there for a common purpose. To learn how to become better global marketers using this great little tool called the internet. The world seemed small as there were people from all over coming together to learn and better themselves. It truly was an amazing experience! (To become part of this global team check us out Here).

So, that was my first travels. Unfortunately on my way home from Florida I found out that my dear Grandfather who had been making great progress in therapy after a stroke had fallen. I got home in time to be with him and my family as he left this earth to go to a better place.

At 30 years of age I have been blessed with four grand-parents. It has been a very heart wrenching experience to lose my Grandpa. May he rest in peace!

During all the pain of losing my Grandpa, my sister had a beautiful new baby boy. The circle of life really is incredible! We welcomed this new baby into our family with great joy! It is so fun to see the excitement of my own children to welcome in a new cousin. In my family my Mom and Dad have 16 grandchildren. The cousins love to play with each other and each new baby gets a bigger welcome from them!

My Grandma and Grandpa with some of their Grandchildren

This is a picture of my three girls with some of their cousins and my Grandma and Grandpa that passed away. We visited Grandpa often as he was recovering from his stroke.It was always a busy bustle but Grandpa loved having his Great-Grand Children around!

Life is so precious!

After all the drama in my life I had another event to attend. This one was in Las Vegas. It was a leadership branding for direct response course by Mark Hoverson.

To be honest it was difficult to prepare for after such a life-altering event but I sucked it up and went. It was an amazing event full of amazing leaders out on the internet making great things happen.

There was people from every imaginable business there. The content was incredible and the people were even better. I made some lasting friends and contacts that will benefit my business greatly.

I have to admit I did have some much needed fun while in Las Vegas. This picture was taken at the Hofbrauhaus. (To be honest I had to borrow the beer for the picture) My unwinding was networking while enjoying good food and drink!

So now I am home and back to business. I would not say it is business as usual but business at a higher level. These two events brought my game to the next level. If you have any opportunity to attend a live event do whatever you can to be there. It is that important.

Life is fragile. It is critical to live each day to its fullest! Look forward to hearing more from me. Also look for my new blog to arrive with many great upgrades and updates. It is probably a couple of weeks out but I am excited for the changes.

If you are in a rut in life or your business take a few minutes to read this great report. It will give you some fresh insights and help you get your game face on. Free Report Here

Until the next time,

Live Great,

Mary Thayer

I Made A Choice…….And My Life Changed Almost In An Instant

March 24th, 2010 by marythayer

My Mentor (top female producer) and me in Houston.

Today I had the privilege of attending the daily “Wake Up Call”. This is a call that I make every effort to attend. It makes the difference between a good day and a fantastic productive day. Each time I attend that call I am amazed at how I am challenged to grow.

So what is this choice I am talking about? At the end of last year I decided I had it. Inside I had dreams that I was starting to give up on and tell myself to get real. I was starting to waver to settle for the pastures. After all that was what everyone else did right?

You know the routine, go to work after dropping your kids off somewhere, work all day doing stuff that you have gotten bored with or maybe even started to hate, then after work, pick up the kids, race around a bit to get ready for the next day, watch some TV, go to bed, and then rinse and repeat.

I am somewhat ashamed to admit I even wavered on my hopes and dreams. But hey as humans we have our ups and downs. That’s when I made up my mind.

I decided that I was happy not doing what everyone else was doing. I decided my dreams would only come true if I pursued them with every piece of my being. I decided that I would change!

Now on this mornings wake up call change was the hot topic. Change will only take place if you do these three things:

1) Decide to change – Change always begins with a decision.

2) Change the way you think – Program your mind with what is right and good.

3) Make small steps toward change each day.

We all want change to happen instantly. When we start a business we all want sales to be flooding in the day after we start. That is not the reality of life. Accept your growth and success as a process. A process that must grow day by day. Celebrate each success you have toward meeting your goals. Make sure you are taking a step each and every day!

Challenge yourself! Choose to begin. It is only with beginning that you will get on the path. Once you are on the path you must keep moving to get anywhere!

Above I included a picture of myself with my mentor. We were in Houston together for an event. It was the second time we met in two months. On Saturday I will meet up with her again in Florida for another marketing event. If you were to tell me one year ago or even six months ago that I would be taking my third trip to hang out with empowered people who are making their business happen I would not have believed you.

The baby steps of change have started to reap results in my life that I only dreamed about before. I have a clear purpose to pursue each day. I have a business that is growing day by day. I am meeting and developing relationships with people all over the globe. I am masterminding with millionaires. It all started with a choice.

If you are holding back make sure you put all the blame on yourself. Only you can make the choice and when you do prepare yourself for amazing things!

Do you want to change to? Do you want to feel alive even if it means you must face your fears head on?

You can get started today as well, it all begins with a choice!

If you want to learn more about how you can hang out and train with million dollar earners, get the training you need to make it happen, while being part of a community of like minded individuals(and me:-) Click Here.

Skiing, Kids, and Internet Marketing

February 27th, 2010 by marythayer

What does skiing, kids, and internet marketing have to do with each other?

Last night my husband and I took our two oldest daughters skiing for their first time. They were very excited about it!

To prepare them we found some YouTube videos of other children skiing the night before we went. They loved watching them and were determined to be as good as them.

When we got to the ski hill everything was exciting. Putting on the ski boots for the first time, getting those ski’s and being able to carry them outside, moving around in ski’s, getting to the rope lift, and finally getting to the top of the hill. They did not want to stop to take this picture! They were too excited!

Then came the work (especially for the parents:). They learned very quickly that it was not as easy as it had appeared on the videos. My oldest daughter was more cautious and it took her some time to get used to snow-plowing so she could control her speed. She worked at it hard with lots of hand holding and coaching from her mom and dad. By the end of the night she was going up and down the bunny hill independently. She could even stop in the middle of the hill by herself. It was incredible really!

My middle daughter loved the skiing but just loved to go really fast down the hill. She did really good (she’s only 4) but she did really get how to stop and slow down completely on her own. I skied right by her side to slow her or stop her or steer her away from crashes! Though she did not hone in on specific skills the balance and coordination she mastered was very impressive to say the least!

Both girls took a couple of minor spills. They really had a hard time trying to figure out how to get up with their skis on. My husband and I helped them up each time by guiding them with words. They did struggle but we knew the best way for them to learn was to let them figure it out with guidance rather than just plucking them up.

So what does this little story have to do about internet marketing? Through the process of teaching and watching my daughters ski I could not help to compare it to my own journey of learning internet marketing.

First the excitement of just getting started. Seeing others that are successful and thinking I can do that and I can do that better! Visualizing the process and how it was going to be great!

Then, after starting realizing that this might be a little trickier than I thought. Getting hung up on certain marketing techniques that seem Greek or just plain wiping out on my first attempts at something. Understanding that internet marketing is fun but takes a little more work and effort than I previously expected was a milestone in itself!

Finally to honing in on one skill and practicing and working hard to get it right. Taking a few falls along the way but having a trusty mentor and coach to give the hand up.

If you are struggling in your internet marketing stop and re-evaluate your techniques. Go back to the “bunny hill”. Do a technique you are comfortable with and do it until you are great at it. Then move on to a little bigger challenge. The more you challenge yourself the better you will get.

Finally, expect your mentor to guide you rather than picking you up each time. With this guidance you will learn more and it will accelerate your success at a much greater speed. Everyone learns at different speeds and that is OK. Do not get frustrated by the success stories of people who make it in less than 3 months. Accept your unique learning curve and stay on it!

More than anything enjoy the ride!

If you want to learn more about how you can “ski” with me in internet marketing go to my site at Http://FastTrackStrategy.com (Grab your Free Report as well).

Notes on Leadership

February 24th, 2010 by marythayer

Believe in yourself! Believe you will succeed.

Be Strong, Be Courageous, Be a Bold Leader!

Create and maintain the habits it takes to be a leader!

Stop taking all the procrastination exits on your success highway. You biggest responsibility is to overcome procrastination. Focus on the benefits of completing a task.

Examine your excuses, then fool them by taking action!

Take responsibility for your actions.

Take responsibility for your success.

Celebrate every completed step and victory. This will fuel your desire to continue on the journey and challenge you to step up to the next level!

Do something today to bring you and your business to the next level. Make success a daily Habit!

How would you like to start your day with encouragement and wisdom? How would if feel to be part of a community that helps you grow into the successful leader and person you want to be?

Check out how you can have access to Inspiration and motivation on a daily basis with successful leaders ==> Here.

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily. ~ Zig Ziglar